You may be wondering where this tag line came from. My dear friend Quinn Fontaine, Baby Burns or Sir Burnerton to most of you, asked me if I would like to do a radio show with him. I thought, what would we do on radio? How would we do it? He proposed that we name our show Dr. Wynn and Quinn are all in. We worked on Clubhouse and had a number of shows, where no topic was off limits. At the end of one of our early shows Quinn said to me, Dr. Wynn is there anything you want to say to everyone? I responded “yes. More love, not less, no matter what.” From then on everything I have worked on has been focused on increasing love no matter what.
What if, everything was met with love? Anger, confusion, business, self-care, therapy, medicine, housing, and everything else that exists? What would your life look like if you took time to give more love, to look for love, and to treat everyone around you as if they deserved love? Believe me this is not as easy as it sounds. When our values or ideologies are at odds with others how do we show up with love, more love not less no matter what?
So far, all I can say is this is an enormous practice of self awareness, reevaluation, and prayer. To whatever you need to pray to, that things has to participate in bringing love. I might even suggest that - that is love.
What if you are faced with the things you despise most int he world, or the thing that pushes you every button, how do you bring love, more love then? So far, Victor Frankl seems to get that right - find the space between the stimulus and the response, give yourself time to do no harm.
Ok, bombshell question. What if you work in behavioral health and have been experiencing frustration about clients, administration, time, documentation and everything else that it takes to be in the helping field. But, you’re not just in the field are you? You’re in the field at the decline of COVID, you work in a time where there are significant staff shortages, and where the diagnoses are getting more complex by the day. So, how do we in behavioral health bring more love not less?
First, we do our work. We manage our past, feelings, thoughts and energy. We heal our own trauma. We own our own stories. Second, we practice. Practice breathing, practice being present. Third, we find the middle in all situations. We leverage our breath and our presence to bring love. It is our job to model ombré love not less no matter what.
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